Have you heard of the 6 geniuses? It is a book that proposes that there are 6 areas of "managing" one's self and others, and some are areas of genius and some are areas of frustration and some are competencies.
The book also proposes that spouses who are compatible tend to have complimentary areas of genius and frustration.
More to your point: if someone has an area of frustration to discern what course of action will fix, and you have that as an area of genius, then be kind about it as you probably got married because there are other ways you complement each other.
I haven't read the book, but can empathize with the complementary angle.
Yet it's just complex, and it's also a moving target. In particular, there will be areas where there's no way out of both being at least competent and self sufficient.
For instance if you live in the middle of nowhere with only a road connecting you to civilization, your partner giving up on driving can't just be a "frustration" area you cover with your "genius".
Same way if you live in the forest you won't get away with shouting and fainting every time you see a bug.
The partner might be there to help adapt, the most severe issues can be mitigated, but fundamentally there's no way out. (now I also assume most reasonable people won't just be there shouting "FIX IT"). And we're not counting the parts where both have it as frustration in the first place ("fix the printer" ?)
The "genius" vs "frustration" split looks to me decent for some cases, not good enough in others, and not applicable for the most critical stuff, with couples still needing to think long and hard about where they strike the balance on each of their areas.
>For instance if you live in the middle of nowhere with only a road connecting you to civilization, your partner giving up on driving can't just be a "frustration" area you cover with your "genius".
Different people are different. And not all people are reasonable. Some partners might really be like this, so if your partner is like this, you can either put up with it and do all the driving, or move someplace else. But the other thing to keep in mind is: you picked this partner. If your partner frustrates you this much, maybe you made a bad choice and should pick a different partner.
As someone who's had different partners in life, I highly encourage single people to be very careful about who they pick for their partner.
Evolution selects against this. You would have to release millions on a regular basis to consistently fight the "biological fitness" of self reproduction
The toy model of this that fits in my head, is the prisoners' dilemma as a gene: every generation has a local preference for that gene, but overall it destroys that population.
Ages ago now, and I think it's been debunked anyway, people were looking for a "gay gene" and wondering how it might remain in a population; one suggestion was that it would cause hypersexual andro-philia, making both men and women with that gene very much more into guys than normal — if that actually existed in that particular form, then (modulo both contraceptives for the women, and sperm banks for gay men who want to start a family) it would count as such.
Tldr; earth is not a perfect sphere. Rotation of the earth makes the middle fatter. Density of areas of the earth make gravity change. The lowest density area is off the coast of India and it confused people since 1948. We recently did a computer Sim of 19 scenarios across 150m years of tectonic plate movement and magma density and temp. A couple scenarios predicted "plumes of magma" with different density under that area. The models didn't accurately predict some other known tectonic and volcanic activity, so really we just have a really good preliminary theory.
Tldr; woman plays "catch me if you can" while having an active infectious tuberculosis diagnosis. After a car crash and ER visit, she was convinced of the importance of treatment. She consented to treatment and is now released and healthy.
It took beyond the car crash and ER visit to finally apprehend her. The police, trying to act as safely as they can themselves to arrest her, would have to use special isolation gear themselves and an isolated vehicle to pick her up and that's what the big chase has all been about.
As soon as they finally got her at home at the right time in the bubble suits, she finally realized in the negative pressure room at the jailhouse that she was actively a huge biosecurity risk and finally realized that she can trust the health authorities that are trying to help her.
Battery electrolysis of h2O into o2 and h2 that these engage in need a consistent power source. Either the power source is the core of the earth spinning, or there is some electrical something making these nodules consistently split.
I'll be curious about it, but I think that climate change may slow more from lower cost land surface batteries than these electrolysis water splitting batteries and associated ecosystems. Aka I won't hold my breath... ba dum tsss
The book also proposes that spouses who are compatible tend to have complimentary areas of genius and frustration.
More to your point: if someone has an area of frustration to discern what course of action will fix, and you have that as an area of genius, then be kind about it as you probably got married because there are other ways you complement each other.